[From Noel] Men are faced with a dilemma this time of year: What to buy your wife for Christmas? Women like gifts that suggest you have given some thought to the matter and that you can successfully operate a debit card. In general, you want a gift that rules out the possibility that you have forgotten the birthday, anniversary, holiday in question.
The key is to do your homework. Every man ought to have his wife’s sizes written down somewhere: ring size, preferred necklace size, shoe size, dress size, bra size. Write it down somewhere so you can make educated guesses on your gift purchases. Here are some other guidelines to think about.
- Unless your wife has explicit asked, do not give kitchen utensils or cleaning implements. If this is a surprise to you I would suggest you watch this:
2. No exercise equipment or gym memberships. If she seriously did ask for this however, it would probably be a good idea for you to use it as well.
So what should you do?
Some guys figure that, “my wife likes shopping, I told her to buy her own presents.” That may very well be true but what it says, subconsciously is, “I don’t care enough to do something for you,” and I’m not sure you want to stand behind that statement. You need to love her better than that! Your gifts don’t need to be expensive but they do need to show that you are aware of what’s going on in her life. What is she dealing with right now? My theory is that there ought to be one present at a holiday that your wife knows nothing about. It ought to be a gift that you have to do some work to make it happen.
Jewelry is a relatively safe bet. Nearly all women appreciate jewelry and if you ‘re up the creek and guessing, this is about as safe a guess as you can make for two reasons:
- Jewellery stores have excellent exchange policies.
- The wrong size ring or necklace will not get you into any trouble. The same cannot be said for lingerie, dresses, pants, etc.
A simple, reasonable gift that is the right size says, “I notice and I care.” You can likely return it if it’s a miss, but when you get it right, well that’s what we call the gift that keeps on giving.